Married men leave me the fuck
alone. BigGirlz please indulge me while
I vent over a personal experience. Over the past couple of months I’ve been
lucky (or unlucky) enough to be approached by and meet some relatively
attractive men. Problem, 5 of the 7 were married. WTF? Really? What a pain in the ass.
Now
being an analyst by both nature and profession, you know I had to attempt to
figure out what the hell is going on.
What type of signals am I sending? Is there a flashing sign on my
forehead that says “I only accept the unavailable and attached?” WTH?
Anywho, so I decided to do a little research. It’s amazing what pops up from a simple
Google search. I found a plethora of Blogs and articles discussing this most
interesting topic. Many said the same thing. “It’s not the female but the man
searching for something missing in his marriage.” “Some do it for the thrill.”
“Men like to know they can still attract the opposite sex…blah blah blah.” I even talked to a couple of my married guy
friends, BIG ASS EMPHASIS on FRIENDS and their opinions were pretty similar to
what was printed in the majority of the blogs. I did however come across an
opinion to the contrary of the masses.
Not so much a contrast but a different angle. Mike J from Urban Belle gave it this spin.
“Any woman who is continuously attracting married men is only doing so because
she looks and may even act like an easy fuck.”
DAMN!! Now this made my neck snap. Do I look like a fucking jump off?
Are you kidding me? Now I will be the first to admit I am a professional flirt.
Hell I can do that in my sleep. But am I giving off the “yes I’m an easy,
drama-free, no commitment required lay signal?” Hum well, am I? Hell I dun
know.
As I attempt to retrace my steps to each encounter, nothing stands out
that would lead me to believe I had “tramp” plastered across my chest. As I
remember, I met the majority of the “potential whores” during regular business
hours. And even if I flirted, which we
all know there is a 98.9% chance I did, trust the sexual overtones were kept to
a minimum. Hell I met one in Wal-Mart for goodness sake.
In any event, Mike J’s comments were poignant
enough to cause me to take inventory of my actions and my overall look. Truth be told, I’m no angel and high
collars/neckline aren’t my style. 8 to 5 Monday thru Friday, I manage to
portray a relatively professional look with a slight urban edge. After 5:00,
all bets are off…LOL. As a general rule,
I save my “slore” (slut whore) look for Saturday nights. LOL…don’t judge me
dammit!
Bottom line whether I rock a
Mary Poppins frock or a see thru slut suit, this single BigGirl only deals with
single men. Crudely stated, married men
go home and fuck your wives and leave me the hell alone. I’m the baby brat among my siblings. Rarely
did I share my toys then, I damn sure ain’t going to start doing it now. If you
see me and think “damn she might be an easy lay”, know that if I am (trust me,
I’m neither easy nor cheap, bring the platinum bitch) sorry I digress…know that
I DON’T DO MARRIED MEN! I’m too spoiled for that. Besides I have enough reasons
to go to Hell without adding adultery to my list.
Moving on to the next one in a
business suit and rocking red stilettos.
