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Tuesday, October 4, 2011

So What’s Next…?

You made eye contact, you flirted and  you landed the date.  It’s been evaluated and picked apart. So what’s next?  You keep working it.  If that one didn’t work out, on to the next one.  Continue the practice until it becomes second nature.  You’ve already crossed the biggest hurdle and that was simply starting.

Now let’s back track a little, some of you can’t seem to nail down the eye contact start. I realize that is a struggle for many.  Your apprehension may stem from a lack of confidence in you.  No one is perfect.  Many people look as if they are the complete confident package. Trust me 75% of the time that’s BS.  Stop comparing yourself to the image you have created in your mind. You will never measure up to that unattainable target you’ve created in the Never Never Land of your dream world.  Everyday you should be able to pick out at least five things you like about you when gazing at yourself in the mirror. It could be as simple as the color of your hair or the fact that you’re wearing a favorite bracelet.  Stop focusing on the negative.  If you have a flaw that bothers you, than work to correct it, but in the meantime focus on what is great about you. Learn to smile. Think a happy thought (ok so now I sound like a Disney flick, but it works).  If you can find a glimmer of joy to keep in the forefront of your thoughts, you would be amazed at how it will transform the vibe that eminates from within. People will see and detect a different you.  Positive energy attracts positive people. 

Try it…what’s it going hurt?