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Monday, September 19, 2011

Evaluating the date…

First of all are you still flirting and mingling? Don’t get caught up and forget rule number one just because you landed a date.  Flirt flirt flirt, it’s the only way to keep your skill up. 

Now let’s talk about your date. You survived…YEAH!! Now, think realistically about it. Remember, I’m trying to connect you to the dating world.  You need to become comfortable with dating as many people as possible.  Now for some, dating doesn’t take all of this reflection and evaluation. Those are the folks who have the whole dating thing down to a social science. In their eyes, dating is not a big deal; but for the socially challenged sometimes you have to do some grunt work on the front end in order to coast through this world.

Now let’s evaluate

There’s only one question you need to ask yourself:

“If given the opportunity, would I go out with this person again?”

Make a mental (ok, write it down) list of why or why not.

Do this even if it’s obvious you will never see this person again, remember this exercise is about your improvement.

It’s not always the big things that may have turned you on or off, it just as well could have been something small like:

  • He opened doors
  • He chews with his mouth open
  • He smelled great or musty
  • He wore cheap shoes
  • He wore a throw back jersey and yes he's over 35
  • He seemed comfortable

The big things can be obvious deal breakers but it’s those little things that can annoy you to the point that you wonder “what the hell was I thinking?”
So formulate that list, learn what you like and prepare yourself for the next date.