Time 2 Clean

So BigGirlz we have officially hit the 3rd month of the year. Good ol March; Time for spring cleaning and spring release. Now if you didn’t succumb to the “Cling Ritual”, than at least half of your work is complete. For those who have no clue as to what “Fall Cling” is, in a Nutshell it’s the process of allowing someone in your life during the Fall in preparation for a winter cuddle buddy. There’s no relationship, commitment or hope of a future together. It’s a purely physical affiliation used to ward off the loneliness of a long bitter winter.  

HAHA! Anywho...on to spring cleaning and release.

Now Spring release should be seamless if you followed the rules when starting the cling process. You’ve moved past V-day and honestly your clinger should be on its way out and completely gone before the Easter Bunny drops a basket on your doorstep. Now, if the clinger is having a difficult time leaving or is stalling, then you need to stand firm, replay the startup rules and follow thru with the release. Feelings should be a non-factor. Again, stick to your rules. Reversely, if you are hesitant and/or reluctant to relinquish your duties as a clinger, prepare for fallout.

Ya see BigGirlz, you have falling into the release pit and have now exposed yourself to “clingers remorse”. Not a good look, not a good look at all!!!

So now what?

As usual my advice is to take it on head first and revisit the rules you should have outlined during the start up. It’s easy to get comfortable with “cuddles” but face it, is this really a situation you’d like to see forever?

Consider this, who is reaping the rewards of this collaboration? Now if both parties are giving equal effort and enjoying equivalent benefits, then it sound as if this cling session morphed into something more than initially constructed. BUT if you find yourself on the high end of a 60/40 or even 70/30 give and take, then shut that crap down. Grow a pair and move this exodus to closure.

 

BigGirlz, you’re wasting precious life moments on a dead end or useless situation. Time to clean. Clean out your clinger but most importantly, clean out your self-debilitating thoughts and actions. Don’t allow your comfort zone to become your crutch zone. Cut the cast from your habits and step into spring armed with motivation to do better and the desire to progress. De-clutter your thoughts and your actions will follow.  

I’m moving on to the next one, springing forward to a better me!!!

To Cuff or not to Cuff

To Cuff or not to Cuff…yep it’s still a question

BigGirlz,

I think we’ve dealt with this subject every year, so why should 2017 be any different. LOL The leaves have changed colors and are beginning to fall off the trees. The temps at night are dipping deep into the 40s and knocking on the door of the 30s. And now the thermostat battle has begun. Heat or no heat?
Bwahahahahaha

Well…Cuffing may or may not help with that decision. FYI we are in the peak of selection season so don’t drag your double-sock covered feet too long because the pickings get slim real quick! IJS

As I previously stated, we’ve hit this subject every year. In keeping with tradition, here’s to Cuffing Season AKA “Fall Cling”!!!

Now, if you’ve already made up your mind to rough it this winter, well, do you. Invest in a great electric blanket, purchase some flannel and you will survive. Trust me, been there done that! Yes I survived!!!

For those who want and plan to “Cuff”, let’s have a conversation. Ya see BigGirlz, in order to successfully navigate this Season of Cling, I strongly suggest you keep these few ideas in mind.

First and foremost, perform a mental stability check on yourself before you commit to cuffing. Why? Well, you need to be absolutely sure you can handle a seasonal/medicinal driven relationship. Remember this is TEMPORARY!!!! Do not go into this thing thinking this will be a good way to reel in that particular person you’ve been peeping all summer. NO!!!! Keep your feelings and emotions in check. Know that pillow talk can get real sexy and seductive however remember why that warm body is present. It’s not to say that time and texture can’t change this situation BUT stay the course. What could feel real may very well be a way to ensure the situation endures the full season. So again I say, a mental stability check is essential!

Second, be rejection ready. By that I mean just because you dance in the sheets (to keep warm of course) doesn’t mean there will be a public viewing of this partnership. You are are not his woman and he is not your man. You are classified as a Bed Warmer. That is all. Don’t get it twisted, men get sensitive too and have the ability to catch feelings. Be sure you both have clear and solid expectations before you start. If seeing him kicking it in public with another chic or his lack of open acknowledgement of you gets under your skin, it may be time to shut this process down. 

Third and what I feel is most important, an exit plan.
BigGirlz, you need both an emergency and end-of-season exit plan. Again, this is a temporary situation!!! Know how to end it if you start getting too attached. Also, if he shows signs of possession, have some balls and check that behavior immediately. Do Not; I repeat DO NOT let that shit ride. The end will become extremely messy if the lines are crossed. Keep in mind; he could be just shooting game to see how far and what can be gained from it all. Stay on your toes. Guard your heart. If at any point you decide this is too much for you, own your shit, tell him, “I can’t do this anymore”, cut your losses and go purchase that new blanket.

Bottom line BigGirlz, “The Cuffing Game” ain’t for everyone. Know your limitations and stay true to the mission.

I’m moving on to the next one. Warm body selected and blanket on standby…

Friend Zone?

BigGirlz,
What the what?

There’s a reason he hasn’t made a move to seal the deal.  You see, without saying a word, we allow ourselves to be available at all times. We answer calls, texts, emails and engage in anytime of the day or night conversations. We constantly share hopes, dreams and wishes.  As long as there’s a connection of some sort both parties are content. Contentment without any visible progress toward “more”; ladies that is the f****** Friend Zone. We get placed or even worse, we place ourselves in the Friend Zone. One of the best quotes I’ve heard as it relates to dating is: “if you can’t seem to find the girl or guy that completes you, try looking in your friend zone.” Why is that, well as usual I have a theory.  We get caught up in the Glamour and Glitz of our own fantasy world. In that world, we’ve created the most unrealistic mate and lifestyle imaginable. We create standards that are not only out of reach for a mate but even ourselves. PERIOD! Sorry BigGirlz, but real s*** ain’t always glamorous. Now let that sink in for a bit.

So let’s unpack this shall we. How, no…WHY we have allowed ourselves to sit comfortably in the friend zone, damn well knowing we want, desire and absolutely deserve more? My theory, we accept this placement for three reasons:  Boredom, Fear and/or Low self-esteem

Ahhhh…boredom. In the past and trust me that past wasn’t very long ago, I would often refer to dating as something or someone to do because I was bored.  So I would stay in contact with various people on a “just-in-case” basis. You know what I mean, make a random phone call and make up a lie. Something along the lines of “Hey was that your truck coming out of…” or “Listen I got a bike question for you” and then my favorite “Do you know anyone who fixes (you fill in the blank)”, full well knowing the conversation would steamroll from there. Again, I didn’t have anything else to do and that call would; keep the connection going, fill up some of my empty space and keep me fresh on his mind whether I wanted him or not. So I placed myself in the Friend Zone, just to be safe. Again, “just in case” I change my mind regarding that person(s). Guys do it so I figured why not? Now, I didn’t say the s*** was right or fair. FYI since karma is pretty accurate; I suggest you pick your victims wisely.

Anywho…

Another reason, I feel we piddle around in the Friend Zone is pure unadulterated fear. Fear of what? Fear of being alone. News flash, if your ass is in the Friend Zone, guess what, YOU ARE ALONE!!!! BigGirlz we have got to stop this madness. We get so focused on being alone that we become paralyzed within a temporary condition. Now I hear you grumbling already.  “How do you know…” and “I’ve been waiting FOREVER…” BLAH BLAH BLAH.  Ok “Miss Forever”, exactly how are you waiting? What are you doing while in this phase? Are you emitting vibes of desperation? You do realize men can smell/sense that shit, right?  Trust me, they can. I mean, I get it. Everyone, ok not everyone but most people want someone to share their meaningful moments.  But swimming in the Friend Zone short changes you. To be honest, while you are accepting the baby bits tossed out by Mr. Temporary, you could very well be missing out on Mr. LongTerm. Bottom line, get cho ass out of there!!

And now this last reason, for occupying the Friend Zone is low self-esteem. SHITTTT!!!!! Ok, I had to get that out. BigGirlz BigGirlz, society, family and fake-ass friends really have done a number on our psychic huh? Many of us look put-together, strong and ready to take on the world on the outside but truly are a mess on the inside. We’ve tried it all and at some point we failed to keep our esteem intact. Now I’m not referring to those who have moments of self-doubt but find ways to dig, pull and scratch their way out. Hell that comes in all shapes and sizes. No, I’m talking about the BigGirlz who live in a state of “I’m not good enough ever” gloom and doom stuff. Again, STOP IT!!!! If you continue to feed yourself that garbage, then eventually you won’t be good enough, not for the future him or the current you.

So how do you get out of Friend Zone Purgatory?  First, you have to want to get out. If he only views you as a friend, be that in a limited capacity. Cut off or at least reduce your availability. You don’t owe him your time and you’re not required to be there to fill his downtime. Screw that!!!

Second, stop stringing people along. If you don’t want his ass then let him go. Listen, if you’re not sure then have an honest conversation with the “just in case”. Give it true evaluation. Third and what I feel is most important, get real with yourself, decide what it is you really want and get your ass off the fence. Remember, no decision is a decision. Participate in your own damn destiny, GEEZ!

As women, often times we forget to make ourselves a priority. We’re so busy taking care of others that we neglect us. The time is now BigGirlz, if you want bigger, better and more than you have to grow a pair (you know what that means) and TRY!  Conquer the mind and thoughts, then you will find yourself in a better and more productive zone. Grow, foster and nurture self-confidence (a women’s most sexy trait). Begin building your life around you and the rest will fall in place.

I’m moving on to the next on, screw the Friend Zone; I have better things to do…

Unlikely Fumes

BigGirlz,

Are you running on Unlikely Fumes? Yes I said Unlikely Fumes.

Ya see at one time or another we've all generated an unlikely thought. What do I mean, well of course I'll explain. 

As defined, unlikely means something is doubtful, improbable or questionable. For instance, you could have goals but create a thought process that says it is doubtful I will reach my desired weight; it’s improbable I will ever find a suitable mate or even questionable I will come close to achieving a life of fulfillment.

Unlikely Fumes...

BigGirlz, we have to learn to move beyond the unlikely and channel our inner foundation of absolute success.

Ya see BigGirlz, as most of you know I write about and discuss subjects that are close to me. Trust me, I'm well versed at meandering thru Unlikely Fumes. Weight, mate and life are just a couple of subject permeating my life’s atmosphere.

Fume #1: Let's start with weight. SHIT!!!!!

First and foremost you have to be happy with you. If there is an issue, you have to take the steps to change, modify, fix, correct (yes I can go on) it. In my mind when your size prevents you from enjoying various aspects of your life a decision has to be made. Change you or change what you like to do. So once again talking about myself, I decided to endure the challenge of losing some pounds. Again, not to fit into societal norms but to:  

1.   Stop my damn knees from hurting

2.   Climb a couple flights of stairs without feeling as if my damn lungs were going to jump out of my chest and say "heffa you're on your own, we're tired" LOL

3.   Fit in a roller coaster seat and/or sit comfortably in an airplane seat (no extender belt)

See, when you have what seems to be a larger than life ass, (giggle giggle) those simple little things can be a freaking challenge. So what was so Unlikely about that...well, I knew I could lose a few pounds but was unsure of the longevity of keeping it off. Bottom line BigGirlz I had to take control of not just my eating but my thoughts. You’re not just what you eat but you become your most consistent thoughts. I had to KNOW that I could make that change and believe that not if but when I fall off the wagon, I could climb right back on and keep pushing toward my goal. Am I there yet, close, but I have resolved in my mind that I WILL. No room for doubt.

Fume #2: The Mate (Oh Lord)

BigGirlz, I started this blog because of the countless discussions I was either pulled or jumped into regarding dating as a plus size woman (I don't really care for that particular term, but whatever). Note the blog name, Dating not Marriage, why? Because in my mind dating was as far as I could imagine for my life, especially at this stage of the game. Marriage was a big ass Unlikely Fume. Hell, I didn't take dating serious. I wasn't looking for a mate. For what? What I realized while I was working to reduce the amount of junk in both my trunk and mind, (super focused on me) there was a different plan being constructed on my behalf. How? Well, as I purged my mind of the 'improbable’ in many aspect of my life, things began to change. I’ll forgo the clichés, sort of… As I changed so did my habits, thoughts and aura (Y’all know I’m all about aura). Positive flocks to positive. You see BigGirlz I can actually see me becoming a wife. Hell, who knew right? lol

Fume #3: Life Fulfillment

Damn, isn't that what living not existing is all about? Apparently I missed the mark in my jacked up thinking patterns. Fulfillment comes from within, at least for me. As always I’m referring to me in these scenarios. Point, only you can determine your level of satisfaction. Maybe cars and cash or friends and family hold the wealth of your fulfillment. In either case a life of fulfillment should not be based on what others have planned for you. Ya see BigGirlz I had it ALL wrong. I thought it would happen at each milestone reached. You know, College Graduation, increased salary (trust me it ain’t like that…lol) or even traveling the world, ok a few places in the world. Nah…think about it after each accomplishment most of us are looking for the next thing to do. I’m not saying those things won’t enhance your life or even bring you joy. What I am saying is after all is said and done, when you are alone and left to your own devices are you happy? Can you sit back and think if I drew my last breath right this very second would I have regrets?  Hmmmm….

Have I made some F’d up decisions, ABSOLUTELY! Can I go back and fix/change them, hell naw. Do I let those things hinder me from moving forward, NOPE! BigGirlz, I seriously thought that fulfillment would come from things outside of me. WRONG!! For me, fulfillment truly is a “place of my self-content”. Once again, who knew? 

I do, now!

Unlikely Fumes, be gone. I’m moving on to the next one fumigating my mind so thoughts of Unlikely have to dissipate.

Why Are You Dating (Marriage, Companionship or Self Discovery)?

Why Are You Dating (Marriage, Companionship or Self Discovery)?

BigGirlz,

Do you have dating goals? It seems to me that if setting goals is necessary in other aspects of your life (e.g. get out of debt, lose weight, go back to school), then shouldn’t the same be expected when it pertains to dating? Or is that just too damn much to deal with? Bwaahahahahaaha

Let’s dive in and see what happens...

First, I think it is important to know why you are dating in the first place. I know this may sound a bit off but really if you think about it, it’s very possible, no extremely likely that people date for different reasons. With that, I’ve narrowed dating to what seems to be the Big 3: Marriage, Companionship and Self-Discovery.

Now, some of you are already twisting up your nose and thinking “what the hell is she on now?” Just bear with me on this, ya see not everyone is looking for a husband (or wife if that’s your flip). Think about it…One of the biggest issues folks discover on a date or when dating is she is looking for a husband and he is just out to have fun and nothing more. If you have clear expectations from the beginning, the majority of the hurt feelings can be avoided.

So back to the categories…

Self-Discovery

Often times BigGirlz we are unsure as to who we really are. Your 20 year old self could and should be very different from the 30 or 40 year old you. Sure you still like to go out and “party” but has your definition of party remained the same? I doubt it. For example at 20 it may not have been a big deal to drink shots on an empty stomach, dance all night, drank a little more, eat White Castles, puke in the middle of the night, sleep for a  couple of hours and then go to work and fully function. At 30 and 40, your concept of “party” may be a bit more subdued (at least I hope so since the older we get the lengthier the recovery time).

Just as your definition of party has changed maybe your dating purposes have as well. A part of self-discovery is figuring out what currently ignites your buttons. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having preferences (we’ve discussed that in previous post). BigGirlz do you have a clue what you really like? If you were asked to describe the perfect date, could you? Do you have any idea the type of person it would take to bring that scenario to fruition? Beyond all of that, is what you imagined even possible with you? Some women struggle with knowing what they actually like. Dating can be a great way of narrowing that to a manageable frame work. To get there, first you have to be honest with yourself and your “victim” or “specimen” from the start. Own up, at least to yourself, that you’re unsure as to what you want or even like. Pay attention to everything but most important, be yourself. Second, keep the date casual and light. Nothing romantic. If you feel as if the date is moving in an uncomfortable direction or pace, put on the brake. Get in tune with your own boundaries. If you don’t know what those are, by the end of the date, you will.   Don’t be afraid of open dialogue. As a matter of fact, start the dialogue. Often times, men are happy to know that you are NOT looking for a husband. It removes the pressure.

Companionship

BigGirlz, once again be honest with both yourself and your victim. If companionship is the goal, then own up to that desire. Stop pretending you’re just dating to date. Lies, all lies…LOL. We all get tired of going out with the girls and/or rolling solo dolo. What’s wrong with admitting your longing to spend time with the opposite sex? NOTHING!!! As I repeat, be honest with yourself. You really should share your position and feelings with that particular person of interest. There are ways to share your thoughts without adding pressure to him or ruining the situation. (Conversation tips are a subject for another day). In either case, pay attention to his conversation and body language. Trust me it will speak volumes. Accept it for what it is and be prepared to lose a couple of prospects. Ya see he may be going through his “self-discovery” phase. Like walking down a dark street alone, be aware of your surroundings and his signals. If the two of you are not on the same page don’t let it fester, address it and move forward with or without him.

Marriage (The Big “M”)

BigGirlz BigGirlz, this one can be a bit rough. Ya see often times folks are looking for a “partner for life” but are either afraid to admit it or don’t want to put in the work to make it happen. If this is truly your goal, I have but one point of advice for you to consider. Become wife material. Not Hoe in waiting or Side Chick available. BigGirlz we get so caught up in looking for a husband and writing off those we encounter that we forget the “me factor”. So as you maneuver through, for the third or fourth time I want to remind you to HONESTLY take inventory of your credentials. Get healthy (which doesn’t necessarily mean lose weight), clean your DAMN house (oops that’s for me…LOL), get your finances in order, get your attitude together, be lovable to yourself. If you don’t love you, how in the blue hell do you expect someone else to, seriously? Focus on being the best you possible. I guarantee while you’re working on you, your husband-to-be is working to ensure he is prepared for you.

I’m moving on to the next one updating my credentials just in case my companionship goal morphs into something else…I’m Just Saying.

Are you the Queen of Sabotage?

Are you the Queen of Sabotage?

BigGirlz, I don’t know anyone who could reflect on their past and not find at least one “do over” situation. Whether it stems from a decision made out of anger, fear or lack of knowledge, we all can easily find something we’d like to return to the scene of the crime to either fix or erase. As a matter of fact, many of us won’t have to reflect very long or even scroll back very far in our minds to pick out what I also refer to as an “Ah Damn It” type of event. It’s life.

As you review and reflect I need you to add a filter to this search, Relationships, Dating and all things related. Are you finding numerous “Ah Damn Its” and Do Overs? Are they laced with Shouldha Couldha Wouldha? If not, this post won’t pertain to you. If you’re rolling your eyes at the very thought, then grab some wine (or whatever’s your favorite poison) and sit back; this journey is for you. Hey my eyes are rolling all over the place so you are not alone.

When it comes to Sabotage, I’m not sure if I wear a queen’s crown but a princess tiara is definitely in order. Ya see BigGirlz, my do overs and such range from giving the wrong person my number to allowing a 3^rd and 4^th chance.

See I’m not talking about Sabotaging a relationship with a potential mate, OH NO! I’m referring to the relationship we have with our inner peace and self contentment. Ya see BigGirlz we have a tendency to Sabotage our happiness.

Let’s back up. Now for all you Super Saints, Holy Rollers and Quick to Judge Church Folk, yes we’ve all heard it “Joy, the world didn’t give it and the world can’t take it away”, yeah yeah yeah. We know and it sounds fabulous but that’s not what I’m talking about. In the real world, many of us have an “overall” joy BUT struggle with specific life pockets that make us unhappy; and had we listened to our gut instinct, we wouldn’t have to deal with that “Ah Damn It” moment that remains fresh in our minds.

And now back toward my point…Ah Damn It

BigGirlz, I don’t know about you but most of my Ah Damn Its are connected to a Bored.com moment. You know, Idle mind stuff but even that is not an excuse at least not a valid one.

So why do we do it? What I have noticed, when there is a Void in our lives instead of just transforming that Void into a reflective or recovery time, we rush to fill it with something/anything that will prevent us from dealing with that empty space. Not realizing that Voids are neither the end nor forever. Voids are often an appointed place holder for restoration of the mind and spirit; forced appointments to clean-up mental mess or even re-introduce ourselves to our purpose. It is by filling that Void with meaningless crap, we disrupt what could have been a re-connection or a reinforcement of our inner peace.

Now you’re probably thinking what the Hell does this have to do with dating? Well here it is:

1.    If you are out of sync with yourself you will date anything. For example “Yeah, I know he used to be with one of my friends but it’s just a date(or dinner or a movie.) It’s not like it’s anything serious. You’re correct the encounter may not be serious but the fallout behind it… Is it really worth it?

2.    Lack of mental clarity clouds your thinking as well as your judgment. “He wasn’t THAT bad. Now that we know each other better, things will be different…” BULLSHIT, the only thing that’s changed is the day. Sure people change but have you? Have your expectations? Are things that your previous relationship lacked, no longer valid to you? Don’t down grade just to say you have somebody.

And here is my favorite

3.    He’s just something to do until I meet the real thing. Bwaahahahahahaha are you F’ing kidding me? Lord knows how many times I fed that stupid shit to myself. Let’s be honest here BigGirlz, How the hell are you going to meet “the One” if you are preoccupied with Mr. Something to Do? IJS

Bottom line, stop Sabotaging your well being and worth with temporary garbage. Deal with the Void, its ok. Use it to embrace, enhance and elevate the true spirit of you. Remember darkness cannot exist in a will lit place.

I’m moving on to the next one dancing a jig all the way through my Void. Tell me, what chu got?  

Feasting On The Lies

BigGirlz,

What type of Bullshit are you feeding yourself?  Why do I ask? Well, not long ago I was a part of a discussion that brought to the forefront how much we lie to ourselves in order to make it through. Through what…Dating/Relationships/Singlehood/Lifeshit. These lies over time become notorious isolating walls created for the protection of our vulnerable spirits. And I get it, no one wants to be hurt and after it’s happened on numerous occasions it’s a lot easier and much safer to withdraw to a fortress meticulously constructed from past hurts, broken relationships, stupid decisions, misguided trust, insecurity and so on. 

Hiding is NOT the answer. 

Sure the lies help you to appear strong and stable. And we all know that if you repeat it to yourself enough, it will become your “truth”; however the void you have suppressed will eventually ooze to the surface at the most inopportune time and more than likely mask itself as something you will believe is unrelated. Even worse that tumoristic void will attach itself to a separate situation that you will dismiss as “I was just pissed”.

Time to stop the madness!!!

So BigGirlz, how do we begin to move beyond our walls? How do we break the cycle of falsehood and release our imprisoned spirits from our self perfected fortress?

First we must identify the lies we continuously play in our heads. Yes I realize we can and often do get caught up in our own bullshit, but identifying the lies shouldn’t be that difficult (SHOULDN’T is the Key word here).

Next we have to erase these jacked up messages from our head by replacing the negative with positive thoughts and actions.

Are you with me? Let’s give it shot…

First off, give yourself permission to openly want it. IT?  You know a man/a relationship. In this day of the “Independent women” where wanting a Good Man in your life seems to be heavily frowned upon, women openly proclaim their lack of need for such foolishness yet when home alone, whine and cry over that specific forbidden desire. As I said, it’s ok to want it! Just because popular opinion states you shouldn’t want the “IT”, doesn’t mean it’s correct or even for you. Be a true independent woman and follow your own path, not the one created by others.

Secondly acknowledge the normalcy of wanting to have a mate. It is natural to want companionship. You don’t have to lose who you are by having someone to share in your life experiences. As a matter of fact the right connection will further enhance the true you. Being with someone should not cause or ever force you to cross over into “Himville”. This is a complementary partnership not a freaking takeover.

Lastly, be open without settling. His ass is and will not be perfect. Neither were you before you finished your hair and makeup (Bwaahahahaha…I’m just saying). Again, be open. For example, when I see people doing things or acting in a way that I think is questionable or jacked up (so to speak), normally I shake it off with “Errbody wasn’t raised by my momma” and keep it moving. Good or bad, it’s true. What that really says is their life experiences may have been very different from mine. Who’s to say that all my actions are what my parents intended? Maybe you just witnessed an out of character moment. We’ve all had those. Just don’t allow that one glimpse to be the end all be all. I’m not saying ignore a consistent showing of that moment of glory but maybe step pass the 1^st act and see what the next scene reveals. Trust me, the real being will definitely shine through plus rarely is an in-tune gut ever wrong. The basic foundation of the real him could flawlessly exist. Maybe the structure is loose or needs some adjustments. No I’m not saying take him on as a fixer-upper project however it is amazing what a fresh coat of paint can do to an old room. Ya never know, you could be that perfect spark that triggers his spirit to align with yours.

Bottom line BigGirlz, it’s time to purge our minds, thoughts and spirits and begin the process of living in reality. Don’t let the opinions of others and the self developed lies prevent you from seeking the fulfillment of your heart’s desire. Win or lose what’s life without the adventure of trying…BORING AS HELL!!!!

I’m moving on to the next one, while stretching my thoughts beyond my own experiences.